How many times have we heard of a story of someone losing their love to something stupid. Or even better, its our own story. When we look back at our life and regret those certain choices, its a bit too late then.
The countless flashbacks, the moments where you thought you felt her, but she/he wasn’t there. You shake your head and wonder what it is that you are feeling and why, as the echoes or your past choices are haunting you.
We let go of our love, because we are either too proud to let them know how we actually feel or are afraid of rejection if we show our true and real self. So we choose to let them go to be with someone else, knowing in our hearts, no one would ever compare.
Love and life are not to be mixed with a shopping list of do’s and don’t. There should never ever be a shopping list of requirements someone should be checking to be with their love. How can you shop for the kind of kindness and humor that only touches you. We are all meant to love lots of people throughout our lifetime, but we will only love just one. Most of the time, we let go of that love and decide to be with someone else. I am sure we all have had our share of sexual partners, that is not love. That is just sexual pleasure.
Broken hearts are only felt by those who have lost in love. Its when our hearts are broken we realize what love really means and how special it is. So when we do love again, which we will, we will give with all our hearts again, because holding back due to fear of being hurt, does not make sense. Cause the person you are going to meet in the future had nothing to do with your past, so why should he/she have to deal with that baggage. Flip side to this is would you want to deal with that kind of baggage from them? I didn’t think so. Please do not confuse this by not learning from your past, which we all should, but if your past teaches you to fear and not grow, what have you learned?
I remember when I was young, I used to keep a journal of 101 romantic days and nights with my love. Had I had that many days and nights with love back in the days, life would have been a different story, so… No! I was too boring, insecure and shy back then. But regardless of who I was back then, there is one thing that was authentic and its still here with me today. My outlook on love. We all, not only me carry this hope in our hearts. Even when our hearts are broken, with some time, we rekindle our hope for love.
I tell my friends now, that it is hard and next to impossible for anyone to hurt me now. Not that I do not have a heart full of love, I do. I am just at a place in my life, where if someone does decide to change their mind and break up, or cheat on me, or lie to me. Its ok. I just tell them one thing, “I want you to be happy, with or without me.” So if you lied and that made you happy, good for you, but I do not put up with that. If you cheated on me, that is great, have fun, but I do not do threesomes (even if its a girl). If you want to break up and date other people, that is cool, just tell me and be happy. Life is too short. Really it is. The moments we have together with someone today, are truly golden and priceless. I’ve learned you should never second guess your feelings and analyze moments out of their magical joy. When you lose someone, life has a grand plan to give you someone back in return.
In the grand scheme of things, we really never lose anything, as it just gets recycled in another form of energy and given back to us.